With COVID on the rampage and ready to spark a change in plans at any moment, it’s important to be ready and able to cut your guest list down pretty quickly. But COVID related or not, it’s easy for guest lists to quickly exceed our initial plan and expectation. So how do you cut those numbers down to make things more manageable? Ask yourself these five questions.
1. Are they your friend or a friend-of-a-friend?
If you don’t know them personally, why are you inviting them and paying for their dinner? Wouldn’t you prefer to invite someone you love and know personally instead?
2. Are you inviting them out of obligation or guilt?
There’s this idea that you have to invite family or old family friends – distant or otherwise – out of obligation. Which, I get, is important in some cultures, but if you don’t look forward to seeing that person or, even worse, dread seeing them, the decision is pretty clear. Don’t invite people you dread seeing and interacting with to your wedding!
3. Would you have dinner with them one-on-one or couple-to-couple?
I strongly believe that if you wouldn’t invite them over to your home for dinner, drinks and dessert, you aren’t close enough to invite them to your wedding. This question also lends itself to the last one; if you don’t like hanging out with them, they don’t need to be at your wedding.
4. Do you want kids at your wedding?
Not everyone does, and no one will blame you. Unless this kid is family, someone you have a special connection with or still very dependent on Mum for their life source, there’s no need to invite them along. Depending on the kids, they might also be the kind that are unable to sit quietly and just chill; if you’re cool with that, awesome! If not, don’t invite them.
5. When was the last time you hung out by choice?
If this person isn’t someone you seek out to spend time with, like a work colleague, classmate or other, then you really don’t need to invite them to your wedding.
Phew, hopefully, that helped get you down from 150 to 95? Keep in mind that you can always invite those obligatory family and friends to your ceremony without inviting them to the reception. It’s a great way to include people while keeping the reception to the exclusive few friends and family members.
Until next time! x
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